Me, male, 33. My wife, female, 32. Normally, when bringing my wife to orgasm, she has her head turned away from me or pushed into a pillow or something. Yesterday, she couldn't control herself and rode me to orgasm and I actually got to watch her face while it happened. Sexiest thing I've ever seen, I think. What was even better was that I got to watch it happen for her twice. The thread about eye contact during blowjobs got me thinking about this and when I had the chance I kept my eyes open and watched her, which resulted in a pretty great orgasm for me too, so thanks!

My GF and I (both 20) have been together for some years now, and we have a great sex life. Being the male however, I usually have the higher sex drive. One night while I attempt to initiate sexy times, she looks at me and says "Man, you're like a sexaholic!". That may be slightly true, but I was a little put off, so I proposed we turn it into a game.

The deal was, first one to beg for P in V sex owes the other $20. She laughed, thinking that there was no way I would last more than a day and she was happy to shake on it, smartly saying "Thanks for the $20".

Not an hour later she was all over me trying to get me riled up enough to beg. It was hard to resist but I didn't give in. The next two days consisted of her wearing her sexist underwear, lots of heavy kissing and touching and teasing, and lots of her super sexy attempts at making me give in. The trick was, the more she tried to make me give in, and the more I resisted, the hornier SHE became, and by the third day she was desperate. On that night, she gets in bed, straddles me, pulls off her shirt and mine, kisses me hard, and pulls $20 out of her pocket and throws it in my face, right before removing the rest of our clothes and fucking me like crazy. It was just awesome to see the tables turn like that.

Try it sometimes, especially if you (the guy) feel like you always initiate sexy times. For bonus points, use the sex champion victory money to take her out to the movies.

tl;dr: Made a deal with my GF after she called me a "sexaholic" that the first one to beg for sex owed the other $20. 3 days later, she turns into a "sexaholic" and gives me $20

Last time my ex had her birthday I agreed to try something I've never done before so she fucked me in the ass. It hurt at first but we worked on it and she came a lot. It was the hottest thing I'd ever seen. Both of us were drenched.

I also came too. I came like I never did before. It went through my entire body and I think I may have even blacked out for a moment. It was emotional, sexual and of another level entirely. We added it to our sex life and a couple of times a week I was bending over and taking it for her. It was amazing. She even started calling me a buttslut.

Unfortunately, for other reasons we broke up. I've dated women since and even had (unsatisfactory) sex with them. I haven't been pegged since and I miss it. I've brought it up with women once we get to a point but I haven't had good responses. One thought I was gay, a couple thought it was gross.

Is it really that strange to women? I've been complimented on my butt by a number of women, even one of the ones that thought it was gross. I really miss it. How many women have tried this? Did you bring it up or did he?

It was not rape, but the person freaked out on me the next day and told me that I'd raped them when it was clearly consensual. We were both sober, dating for a while, etc. Still, I can't bring myself to masturbate. The thought alone sickens me and I'm not really sure what to do. I don't think I'm a rapist, but for some reason, my body is just like, NO.

Wat to do. Please help, r/sex.

After I masturbate and orgasm, I get incredibly lonely. I don't know what it is but I guess it makes me nostalgic of being intimate with someone. Does this happen to any of you guys?

My husband is into the dom/sub play that is part of the incest fantasy. He asks that I participate and I do to a certain extent but I just can’t get into the whole father/daughter role. It turns me off and makes me feel pretty awful inside. However, I understand this fantasy and why he likes it because it’s taboo and we play the daddy role while we’re having sex. I’ve even offered to try other things but he’s so focused on this one thing. He believes that if I really loved him then I’d do it but it’s not about that as it’s like asking me to cut off my arm or triggering my trypophobia. What do you all think and do you have any suggestions as to how we can resolve this?

The fact of the matter is I am newly single (for a month or so) and incredibly sexually frustrated, hot and bothered, horny, what have you. Touching myself isn't doing it for me and I really want the touch of a man right now.

I am considering making a "Booty Call" to a guy I have hooked up with a handful of times since my break up, but I do not want to seem desperate. I'm gonna have to do this via text message, so I want to know what to say without seeming desperate. The other times we have hooked up it's happened while we were hanging out, and now I'm going to come out of the blue with a "Hey so if you want later on tonight..."

Help me out oh experts of sexy times! I really don't want to sound desperate when I ask, I don't want him to get a bad impression from me but I really, REALLY need male genitalia.

Thank you all, you guys are the best <3

I've been in several relationships with consistent sex and it wasn't an issue then. But I find myself now in kind of a weird place as of recent. I haven't been with anyone in a long term relationship as just described that for about 18 months and I haven't had sex for about 3 months now. With the last two girls though, when we had sex for the first time I came pretty quickly, as in both cases, it had been months since I had felt that sensation. With me coming so quickly, I felt they were a bit turned off and didn't think of me as very sexually adept. It hasn't been an issue before (other than the time shortly after losing my virginity about 3 years ago). I told them both beforehand it had been a while since I had sex and honestly let them know I would probably come sooner than normal, but I still think it turned them off to me afterwards. In the past when I had continuous sex, it wasn't an issue, I seriously could go for 15 minutes regularly (penetration).

I also realize that there could have very well been other issues that played into things not working out with the two girls, but I can't really think of anything that it would be. Things were going well in both cases until we had sex for the first time. It seems I find myself with a problem that is hindering my romantic life for the first time. Something that wasn't even a problem until the last 7-8 months or so. Any help for a Redditor trying to get back into the swing of things?

I'm not necessarily looking for physical instruction tips, but more of how to let a girl know about something like this beforehand to present it as more of a temporary thing (rather than a persistent problem) and hopefully make the transition a bit smoother (but if you have any actual physical tips for this, then by all means, feel free to post them)

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I see a lot of jokes on reddit about how handjobs are the poor man's blowjobs, essentially.

In fact, it seems the way most men talk about these issues, their preferences are blowjob>vagina>handjob.

Yesterday, I gave my man a slow handjob to finish, and I think it was fun for both of us. Usually we just fuck, but I felt like doing something a little different, and handjobs just feel more "natural" to me than blowjobs (although I've been trying to force myself to get over this, like meditate on the idea of putting it in my mouth heh).

Maybe it's because he's uncircumcized, but he sure didn't complain. I did the combo taint, balls, and dick massage simultaneously, switching up the strokes some, and it seemed to work rather well. I don't understand all the comments about how handjobs "are for teenagers" and blowjobs are always superior. Aren't you a lot more limited in diversity of technique when it comes to blowjobs? Do men really usually not enjoy handjobs, or is that just the ones commenting on reddit?

I've hooked up with this girl a few times now and I have found that she is very aggressive in bed and likes it rough. I have only had sex a few times in my life but she has had a lot more experience than I have. When we're having sex it feels like she wants to dominate and pretty much leaves my body with marks all over the next day. I've never had rough sex before this but I'm definitely open to trying new things, the only problem is that since I've never done this before I don't know what to do that will make it better and enjoyable for her? Anyone have suggestions or any ideas on that? Thanks.

...but I'm a bit conflicted honestly. Personally, I think I'm ready. I'm not in a relationship with anyone, but I have been hooking up with someone recently. He's a bit older than me, and I know he's only looking for sex. I'm not stupid and the fact that I'm a virgin is obviously interesting to him. But it's not about that for me, this is completely about myself. I'm ready, I want to experience it, and if it doesn't go anywhere with this guy or he acts immature afterwards it wont really matter to me.

The thing is, everywhere I read it tells me to wait until it's with someone special. Rationally, I know this might be a bad idea and I might end up getting my feelings hurt. Emotionally though, this is what I want and I know I'm prepared to face the consequences. Coming from someone who always tries to do the rational thing, this is a huge step for me, that I'm willing to do something that I truly want.

Is it wrong of me to have sex? Am I ready? Is there anything I'm not considering? I just want to here some more opinions about this that aren't just from my friends (who are emotionally very different from me).

P.S. I know all about safe sex. If there is no condom involved there is no me involved either.

Hey folks! My boyfriend and I have an amazing sex life about 75% of the time. For most of it, the sex is great, awesome chemistry, mind blowing orgasms and lots of fun all around.

However, for the other 25% of the time, we both have trouble focusing on the moment and staying in the mood. This can cause him to go soft and me to get dry. We honestly have no idea why it's sometimes mindblowing and sometimes not very good..

Any tips on how to stay focused or how to get back in the mood when we lose it?

Thanks :)

I had been worried that my lack of sex would result in me ejaculating too soon, but once we started having sex I realised the opposite had become true. We had sex for about half an hour during which she told me she had finished. Maybe once or twice before that I thought I could cum but I better wait for the green light from her. But once she was done, I was unable to ejaculate. We tried for about 5 or 10 minutes but then I gave up I, didn't see it happening any time soon. I also had no difficulty in maintaining an erection through out this time. Fuck you universe for making want sex so bad the past few years only to grant me it without orgasm. But it was still a fun experience, felt great, she enjoyed and just being with someone as opposed to being alone was awesome. Isn't that an odd experience.

First world problem.

The manfriend bought me a new vibrator and I've been using and abusing that thing since I got it nearly a week ago. Last night, during sex, I noticed that my sensitivity was severely decreased. I still got off but it wasn't easy going. The problem is- if I don't masturbate regularly I experience negative effects. I get grumpy and depressed and my wonderful boyfriend shoulders the burden. But- I definitely don't want my actual sex life to suffer.

Any other women experienced this problem? I'm almost tempted to create a female version of r/nofap.

I'm a 28 year old female and I am, sexually speaking, insatiable. I would stay in bed and have sex all day everyday if I could afford it. My fiancé is not quite so sexually inclined and while it bothered me a bit at first, a lot of communication has lead to a pretty decent compromise.

Additionally, he's a bit more structured (?) in his sexuality. I get randomly horny all throughout the day. I like to have sex randomly in the middle of the afternoon, after we get home from work, a night, in the morning, whatever. He very much prefers to have sex in the morning, almost exclusively. I think this stems from his consistency in performance for morning sex, but that's beside the point.

These issues combined and I've kind of repressed my sexual desires a bit. I get horny often, but almost never (soberly) initiate sex out of fear that (a) I'm bothering him, (b) he's not in the mood or (c) I'll get turned down. We were speaking the other night about the lack of spontaneous sex in our lives and he said it upsets him that I never initiate. I know saying, "But I'm the woman. I have NEVER had to initiate in the past," isn't fair, but it's quite true!! I do NOT know how to initiate sex without feeling like an idiot. Additionally, if he were to say, "No, honey. Not right now," I don't think I'd be able to not be completely butt hurt.

So, how the hell does a woman initiate sex? I feel so completely silly when I do it, mostly because I fear rejection. I won't say it's easy for him to initiate, but at least when he does, he's knows it's a "sure thing." How is it that I'm so sexual in nature and yet so completely fearful of actually initiating?

I kind of figure I'll get a lot of "talk to your partner" responses, but this isn't really his problem. I can't go up to him and be like, "How do I get over my insecurities of initiating sex with you?" And why am I so insecure about it? This is the person I spend 24 hours a day with (yes, we work together, too). I don't feel insecure with him in any other regard, so why this?

Thanks, sexxers!

In grade 4 I found that if I sprayed the water in the right places it felt really good. Grade 6 I discovered I could do the deed with my hand.. never looked back. I guess I wanna know if I was average or relatively early or late.

My girlfriend is really into being submissive but usually takes the dominant role because i have no idea how to. The only problem is she won't let me past second and a half base. How can I be more confident and dominant while making out and touching without being too rapey?

I am a healthy weight 30 year old woman. My entire life I've had a fat fetish. Since I was a teenager, I've thought fat women were incredibly sexy and have been jealous of them. I have put pillows up my shirt when I masturbate. I can't get off without thinking about having a big round belly, breasts, and hips.

After fighting my desires for decades, last year I decided I was going to give in and purposely get fat. I have been increasing my calories and portion size but I have only gained 5 pounds. In the process, I constantly feel terrible about my "failure".

This obviously is not helping my mental health. Is there any way I can get rid of my fetish?

Maca powder used to really do it for me. I'm really digging this new guy and we had the idea that we may be even to dial up the volume even more. Any suggestions? All natural, preferably.

i've researched it and looked up tips but nothing ever seems hopeful or helped. i bought a vibrator, which actually is the only thing that has gotten me close, but i was also under the influence of weed (which usually helps me get turned on).

when i have sex, it never feels like anything. it doesn't feel good and it doesn't feel bad, for the most part, though sometimes it hurts. i do have a boyfriend now, but he was a virgin before we got together. he tries to please me, but it never helps. i just don't get aroused. i'm not even sure why i mentally want to have sex because it physically does not feel good.

i'm partly afraid it's because i've been with so many guys who never cared about my pleasure, and so it's made me loose. whenever i try to masturbate, it never feels good, only when i am under the influence, which i have to stop due to other health reasons. i really want to orgasm and it's incredibly frustrating. sometimes i worry i might even be physically asexual because nothing stimulates me. i WANT to have sex, yet my body doesn't. i don't know what to do. please help.

because i dislike TL;DR, the gist of things: i've never had an orgasm. i have a current boyfriend who was a virgin before we got together and he tries to please me but nothing ever works. even when i please myself, it never works unless i am high, which i need to stop doing anyway. i mentally want to have sex a lot and orgasm and it is frustrating because physically, i never feel it. help?

I'm at 27-year-old guy. My girlfriend of two years has had a threesome or three wth a former best friend; I've only had one-on-one affairs with girls.

Her fantasies lately have involved having a woman watch us have sex; not participating, just watching (and maybe masturbating).

Just wondering, who out there has watched a couple (any gender(s)) have sex, as a voyeur, and what was it like? (I'm taking intimate voyeurism, not seeing drunk people fucking at a party).

How did you end up in that situation? What was it like? And how could we find someone to watch us have sex, but not take part?

I was in the middle of giving my fiancee a blow job, he started getting really into it. We are always pretty rough during sexual activity, but for some reason this time it really got to me. He grabbed my hair and I started to deep throat it. About 5 minutes in, not even realizing it that as he started to slow down and pull it out I had thrown up all the water I had just drank. It was only in my mouth, thank god. I went and spit it out, then kept going he didn't seem to mind it at all. I said that I was embarrassed and he said it was fine and not to worry about it.

any other woman experience this? && men if the woman did throw up a little bit what did you do?

I had a great chat with some female friends of mine today over drinks about when we experienced our first orgasm. I was relieved to hear that many of them, like me, experienced orgasms at a very early age.

I am a woman, just for the record, and had my first orgasm at 6 years of age climbing the ropes in gym class. I had no idea what it was but by God it felt great and I sure spent a lot of time on the ropes after that!

Women of Reddit: When did you first experience an orgasm? Men of Reddit: Chime in, as I'm sure you will. I am addressing women here as I am under the impression that men/boys cannot orgasm until after they enter puberty and start having wet-dreams, getting hard-ons etc... Am I wrong?

Please post if you are a man or woman when you reply.

So, sometimes if I've had an intense orgasm, I'll start crying afterwards. It's not because I'm upset or hurt, it is such a huge release and I guess I get so relaxed that I just let everything go. I've mostly only done this by myself, but the last time I was with someone, I felt the urge to cry after a really intense session. I was able to mostly hold it back, just because I didn't want him to freak out. (I'm also not sure if we're heading towards a relationship or just keeping things "casual.")

I guess my question is, How would you react if your partner started crying after you gave them an amazing orgasm?

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